Hi Ladies,
We all agree that we must take better care of ourselves, but why aren't we doing just that?
Most women are usually the ones to take care of everyone, and worry about themselves last. As we get older, we do get wiser and begin to think of ourselves more, but I say "don't only think, do!". I thought this would be a great place to share how we've started taking care of ourselves, or better yet, advise others how to do so. Please share your experiences here, and also give some great advice to those who still struggle with putting themselves at the bottom of the list.
This can be the place to laugh, cry, and let it all out!
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ReplyDelete***I made a mistake on my last blog-I submitted before I was finished... Sorry new to this***
ReplyDeleteThis is an ongoing issue that women face in general because we have been "taught" to automatically be caretakers.It's not an American issue, it's a societal issue.
My experience has been to be okay with putting your most important needs first. Being a parent is not easy but it's okay to tell yourself, I need a break! That break can be from pretty much anyone. Use your family for support and enjoy your time with them as well. Also enjoy your time with girlfriends- since YOU CHOSE THEM to be in your life. You determine how they fit for you: Someone for venting, someone for realistic support, someone to be your Partner in crime, etc. Enjoy the laughs and silly "talks", about nothing. It's okay to talk about NOTHING sometimes. Finally, make time for working out (either at home or a gym). It's also nice to connect with others at the gym, it keeps you going there and it keeps me sane. Theres nothing like a good sweat from a long day.
Remember to take time to experience the world, to breath and to be you. I recently spoke with someone who traveled three days out of the country alone. She said she brought her journal and wrote on the beach. I was so amazed and takened aback that this married woman with one child was able to that without feeling guilty. Then I thought, damn, that's a great idea. No one calling you, needing you, and nobody knowing who you a are. Hec,come up with an alias for laughs and get on an airplane (at this rate, I'll probably write a book if I'm away-LOL). I'm realizing more and more that silence is not necessarily a bad thing. It gives you that time to pray, to experience, to think, to smell, to remember.
If all else fails, remember to shop, drink, and have a second drink if you need to, and shop some more. Oh, don't forget to exercise to get those calories off from the drinks off!
Wow Nadia, I also admire the woman who went away. That reminds me that you can also do that right here in Boston. What I mean is going to a local beach or park to read, relax, write in a journal, etc. When I went through a lot of stress last summer from visiting my dad at the hospital so much, I started going to the beach in Quincy. Yes, the one we can't swim at. LOL! I had my beach-mat, umbrella, journal, magazines, etc, and absolutely loved it! I think it's very important to spend some time alone to renew yourself.
ReplyDeleteMore and more i think we women are realizing how important it is to take better care of ourselves in order to be around to take care of the ones we love. On an airplane you are told to put the oxigen mask on your self first before anyone else....sounds a little selfish but if your not ok how can you help anyone else. Often times women, especially those with children and husbands tend to forget how important it is to have some Me time. I hear all the time whether from women on Oprah or from friends how if only they could have a few minutes to themselves how happy or more sane they would be.
ReplyDeleteIn this crazy, fast paste always busy world that we live in we, We should make it a priority to have some time for ourselves. Even if it's to escape to another world by reading a new book by your favorite auther. Start small and work your way up. In a few weeks i will be a brand new mom.....my goal is to some way some how find at lease an hour or more just for me. All i can say to my husband is get ready Honey!